04 – A Bust Problem – Bigger, not Better

Around the first of December, Hahna informed that her shoulder was hurting. She said she went to see her plastic surgeon as her implants (pre-marriage) were “impacted” which was causing the shoulder pain. She told me the doctor said she needed new implants which were going to cost $5,000. Even though we were over budget, I told her we could pull the money from savings and do the surgery if it meant helping her shoulder pain. Plus, who wouldn’t be happy with upgraded boobs?

She said she could have her dad take her to the surgery but I told her I would take the day off and do it. On the day of the surgery, I was going to take the kids to school and she was going to Uber to the hospital. In the middle of it all, she asked me if I had any preference on boob style. Kind of an odd time to ask and I told her I didn’t really care but whatever made her happy. She said she was leaning towards Halle Berry which as any boob aficionado knows is a good one to look like. Fun Fact: They don’t look as good as Halle’s.

I arrived at the facility where she was having the procedure done and proceeded to wait for her in the lobby. Her doctor came out after the procedure to give me an update. I asked him if this was going to help her shoulder out and he told me there was no medical reason to have the surgery. Huh? I was surprised and probably should have taken that as another warning but ignored it. Later, I went back to check on her and they gave me a packet of info, one of which said the CCs or ounces of the implants. I decided to look them up and see how “big” they were by doing some online research in incognito mode and holy Tawny Peaks were they big. Way too big in my opinion. 

As I drove Hahna home, I mentioned what the doctor had said regarding no medical need for the surgery. She said the doctor must be mistaken and she would check back in with him at her follow up. Over the next few days, I took care of her as much as I could and got the kids to and from school. She eventually went to her follow up and came back and told me how the doctor had been confused and noted the medical need for the surgery. Sure. Nothing helps shoulder pain like large boobs or so I learned from Dr. Feelgood.

Looking back on it all now, it would seem I had several inclinations that there was something fishy going on. The refusal to talk through issues, the new phone that was with her and locked and the boob job that was completely unnecessary. When you’re living in denial of serious marital issues and divorce is supposedly not an option, you can easily start to overlook the warning signs.

Eventually, when a lot of the things came out, Hahna switched her story from saying it was a medical necessity to saying that she deserved to have her boob job because she had breast fed and raised my three children. Some validity there and I probably would have been on board with that approach as well but the lie she told to get the procedure overshadowed whether she deserved it or not. I probably deserved hair plugs for all my hard work so that she could stay home with the kids but here I am 3 years later, bald still.